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Guys I saw Challengers
Challengers! If you haven’t seen it, go see it. If you have seen it — or if you don’t care about spoilers — please read on. This past Saturday I was hanging out with my mom, working on a puzzle in the shape of the United States*, when I got a text from my good…
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The privilege of an early death
In the words of my friend Joe Garden’s creation Jim Anchower, “Hola amigos. I know it’s been a long time since I rapped at ya,” but, well, life got in the way! I had to go to San Francisco for my cousin’s daughter’s baby naming, and then it was Pesach, and then my alma mater…
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I’m not weird, you’re weird.
I did not expect a chance sighting of the word “throuple” to unlock a whole revelation about my very motivation for starting this bisexual writing project, but the world works in mysterious ways. But. To begin with: I do not like the portmanteau throuple. I would even go so far as to say that I…
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The bi backlash will not be legislated
For a while now, I have been obsessed with the question of what, exactly, a bi backlash might entail. After all, a backlash seems inevitable in the wake of increased visibility: after gays and lesbians fought stigma in the 1970s and 1980s, we wound up with the Defense of Marriage Act — a preemptive strike…
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Self classification
There is an Instagram meme of sorts going around my friends’ stories. I’ve seen it several times now (and in a few iterations); perhaps you have also seen it yourself. The gist is basically this: you’re presented with a series of lines, each offering a spectrum of various sex and gender identities, and invited to…
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You can’t understand yourself through a straight/gay binary
The Journal of Bisexuality has just published a very interesting paper by Rosie Nelson that deconstructs the notion of “straight-passing privilege” using very academic language and heady theory. You can read it yourself — it goes over a number of concepts I’ve thought about in my essays for this project — but the reason I…